Today's message is little bit harsh & tough to be delivered for me,but it's important for me to share it with you all at any cost.
Everyone of us don't miss out this particular stage of our life even though we are not willing to face it at all.some are lucky because they have got what they really wanted to have in their life and some are still in quest of the right companion.And of course that True love for which the whole world today is seeking for and are really confused about its existence.
Unlike everyone else,I was the person who use to always fall in love too fast.
Actually, whenever I use to meet a girl in the disco parties,restaurant,college or any such spots of hanging out around,one thought is to always pass in my mind, 'yes,maybe she is the one'.
It took a while,and then I finally found her.There use to be alien notes of violins being played over the chords of my heart every time whenever I saw her in the city streets & towns.Everything just flowed,right from the conversation,our chemistry and the 24/7 hrs of connection with her, attached to my heart & soul.It was all there,we use to meet every single day without fail and even if at all,we couldn't manage to see each other,then I use to be satisfied seeing her waiving at me even from the far distant place.And then I started believing that I have finally found someone who understood me well & much better rather than everyone else.
After a span of almost a three weeks of time,this relationship had become more trustworthy & my dream.She found out all the goofy things I did,and told me that it was so cute of me and always made me believe how especial I was in her life.I still remember she had said that she had never been this way with anyone else before.we had started planing our life together.There was no room for any doubts,suspicion or any insecurities.All because she had taken away all these things far away from our beautiful dream world.
But after five weeks,she bought them all back,when I saw her with one more guy watching television & movie ' romeo Juliet' in her own bedroom,they were sitting on the sofa so close to each other in the same manner as we did.But they didn't expect me to be over there at that particular point of time,it was quite obvious because i had arrived there planing to give her a surprise visit at her home.I had bought bouquet for her,but when i opened her door,we were just looking at each others surprised and transfixed faces changing their natural colours.
I broke and was about to burst in tears,I just threw that bouquet over there at her place and started walking out.she did tried to follow me from behind,but she had left no way for me to come back.
Things were quite clear for us and it is that it was my time to leave forever from her life.
But one thing i didn't really understood is that they forgot to lock the doors and i don't know wether i was fortunate one chosen especial to watch this episode or not?or just it was a matter of coincidence.
I know unlike me this might have happened in your life too and you all must have cried alone weeping out over your bed in the nights,by locking yourselves in one room.
But i took it as one tough lesson that my life taught me and it's my pleasure today that i am to share this tough message before you all,because it's the serious matter of our life and everyones betterment.
This maybe my toughest message to give but i have to share it,anyhow.
' Don't fall in love too fast and early.'
Because the truth is when you fall in love this fast than it's not true love.
Well,let me explain it to you in a very clear terms.Nothing good in our lives that we achieve never ever comes from falling.They say love has been described as blind and when the only time you fall in love,you don't know and really don't understand that you are totally blinded enough to ruin yourself.
It is so because when we are blinded we are most likely to fall.
When you are in such early & fast relationship,you start misunderstanding the things which are real and you start feeding all in your mind the things that are not really true.
Like as in, you think of that person who you are tied up with,that you know his/her heart but the bitter truth is you just know his/her mind.
You think that you know his/her dreams but you just know his/her plans. You think that you know everything about his/her past,but you just know the parts and not even the half a portion of his/her life.
I understand and know well,how it feels amazing to fall for someone so quickly,its just alike that adrenaline rush.
Just think,why would you want to fall for someone that you don't know at all?or is going to be there to hold you for his/her entire lifetime?
Let me just suggest one thing for you all,Let the right person show you they are the right ones.
Don't just give away your trust to someone else so easily,because when it comes to trust,it must be earned,let him/her earn it.
This is something what I want you all to learn and bear it in your mind, what is the exact difference between,
'I like you'and ' I love you'.?
Well, its like a flower that blooms in your garden. If you like a flower you will definitely go to pluck it and try to satisfy your selfish feeling of desire and pleasure,without even knowing or thinking any further that for one day the same flower will die,and the joy you are seeking or experiencing is not going to last forever.
But when you love that flower,you will water it daily, you will nurture it and allow it to grow and you will watch it grow every moment and everyday.This is called true love,and this is the exact demarcated line between liking someone and loving someone.
Always remember that we don't just find a huge tree with the beautiful fruits and flowers overnight,' It takes time '.
No matter how much you water it,no matter how much sunlight you give it,
'But it takes time'.
No tree has a beautiful flower & fruits overnight.'Dont forget that you can't expect the tree to bear its flower and fruits overnight the moment when you plant that seed.And remember you can't eat that fruit the same day you plant that seed.
" And so, neither can a relationship," 'IT DOES TAKES TIME.'
As far as I am concerned,the only thing which made me going and move forward is the feeling called 'love'.And its really wonderful feeling to survive with,even though you have been ghosted,cheated or torn apart by someone.
So thus,I want my lovely people across this planet to have incredible, real,meaningful,genuine and purposeful relationships in their life.
Finally, on the flip side let me tell you all, "Dont make someone fall in love with you, if you don't know how to love them, him/her."
Because it is for your own benefit,and still if you do so, then remember they won't end up questioning 'you', Instead, but they would end up questioning 'love.'
Being in love isn't any mood,it is a commitment that you follow even afterwards when your mood changes.
And this cannot be figured out in a time of couple of weeks or a month about.
"LOVE IS NOT ANY GAME,BUT IT IS ONE IMPORTANT FACET OF OUR LIFE."
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