Monday, January 14, 2019

Lust or Goal? Sexual addiction how to cope with ?

Before I proceed further with this subject I have got certain questions to be asked to our present ‘yuva'( generation),post 2011 who we refer as milleniuals of todays era.
How many of you all really make the best use of internet and your mobile devices, so that you are free of any constant fear of never ever getting caught at somewhere or be by someone . well now, it doesn’t matters where?in the toilet or in your locked up private room? Wether you are a girl or a boy???? Just think its very complicated ?
Now when I have put forth this question,let me answer you also,about 85% of our todays youth is trapped in extracting gaining this superficial pleasure out of misusing their devices and through the means of pornography and remaining 15% of them just lie that they make the best possible use of their handy assets,almost everyone ranging over ,irrespectively of the fact that you are a girl or a boy,single or married ,young or aged.Almost everyone of us.
The whole and sole of our entire human race, perhaps in one dimensional angle of view point have turned themselves as slaves of gratifying and satisfying their private parts,animal instinct ,lust mechanism and weird sexual desires.
Today if any women walks around over the street, Men feel and stare at them in hiddance as such they are clearly naked, even though when dressed in the well decent attires.No women will lose the chance of seeing the men’s physique and structural built body ,irrespective of the fact where they are,and it doesn't matters to them even if they are in the temple,church,office,school or even the public places.
In schools/colleges almost everyone wants to look good,boys try to build their packs,and girl utilises half of the day to maintain herself .so that,they can win the attraction and attention of their opposite sex.As They can build up such relation in which they can spend their whole valuable time and peak seasons of life, just while smooching,having or satisfying their lustful animal instinct.If they are lucky enough to have their partner then things are slightly easy and if not some artificial toys will do or sometimes hands work better.This is relevant to both the opposite sex.
while Sometimes looking at this circumstances, I feel as if everyone of us are suffering from that dog and bitch heat of August month.I feel even though being in the advanced era of informational and cryber technology we are becoming and falling down worst to the extent of animals.If we compare the strength of other creatures unlike animal,birds,insect we seemingly lack to compete with their strength comparatively .But between the animals and us we have only one attribute that uniquely differs us from them.That is our power of wisdom and analytical reasoning .Such other animals may be helpless to control their instincts by the virtue of nature.But what about us,where we are heading towards?remains the fact as an itself one big unanswered question.
In this race of time where everyone is thirsty for satisfying their hidden and unsatisfied lust,let me clear to you all the very harsh reality of this race,and it is that when we say lust or orgasm ,It is bound to never achieve any point of satisfaction or give you any permanent happiness or joy.As much deep you will go that much more deeper you will get carried away .
Just for a once, take a halt and think?Is this the ultimate goal and final motto of our life.Is chasing behind the lust only kind of happiness left,that we are madly trying to seek?And not being the true spirit of humane?well let me wash off the cover over your eyes that isn't any permanent happiness which you get in masturbating in the toilets or satisfying your lust and orgasm with animal magnetism with your opposite sex partner in the locked bedroom.It is just one mirage of your path that you are treading on and one day you will be left with nothing.Even the capacity of sowing your seed will be jeopardised with the quicker discharges with ashamed feeling of incapability of your manhood or womanhood incase where you are not able to give birth to a child,losing that sense of feeling of being the mother.
Halt for a while and just go back to your innocent childhoods days when you were not that sexually matured adult person.Think of those dreams which you had set for youselves for your bright future.They may be of becoming,actor,doctor,engineer,author,scientist such were the dreams which were full of energy,vigour and vitality and you had no stress or any guilty feeling.
Incase if you are not a virgin I want to ask you one question?Tell me,when you first lost your virginity did you all feel guilty about the sex you all had, as if you have done something wrong and you felt as you are sinning or you are a sinner.Well,almost everyone of us!because it is our conscience that indicates once to us letting us know that maybe we are moving on the wrong direction with our dirty sense of feelings.
Well, as for that juncture of time we didn't know or came to learn this bitter lessons,you will be now shocked to know that we are too exploited due to our helpless natural sexual urges by many porn websites and internet.They take advantage of our weaknesses and mint money out of our own cost of sufferings.
some of you all may think it is our pleasure,but could you bet you are not addicted to having this enhanced sexual exploitism through the means of pornographic images and movies,can you control clicking that button which displays before your eyes such provoking and revealing stuff?And Most of us will answer no,if they are at least honest to themselves.
Certain scientific facts: Now let me lower down your pressure and burden of your deeds.To be very honest such things what everyone of us are doing is just because many of us are not aware about our own body and brain connection,while generally speaking it is quite obvious and natural that we get such sexual desires and satifying ideas of orgasm naturally and by default.
Our brain is wired and programmed to be such,while the DNA is coded with one sex drive which is often known as genetically automated sex drive.This is by virtue of nature that at certain age of our lifetime we get carried away with it, to such a extent that most of our own decisions that we take are due to some sexual attraction and is supposedly to gain attention of our opposite sex.This is normally natural by the virtue of nature so as to enhance the function of reproduction,procreation and to accelerate the process of having our offspring .so that our human race must prosper and stabilised with the growth of time over this planet.But due to unawareness we fall prey and surrender ourselves to be the slave of this sex drive and we start heading towards such wrong paths of our life which are full of guilt,betrayals,and unnatural, unsound relationships for the sake of having satisfaction of our sexual urges that have been pent up for years together.
We as an active youth must try to understand the proper science of our body and mind .As our country has vast historic culture of epics and her heroes .There are many references that we come to know that certain seers,sages,scholars,saints had mastered the art of controlling this sex drives and turned themselves ever immortal figures of the world,that we still remember them.They did such yoga of brahmacharya,controlled and mastered the art of controlling their senses.Finally they got enlightened and spreaded on the educational knowledge and message further on to their upcoming generations.They taught the world that real power is not to waste their energy surrendering to one default genetical sex drive,but it is to gather the command over such drives .once we succeed in doing so we start controlling our senses,with the real self realisation of spiritual powers and its strength.Almost all the epic heroes of mahabharatha had mastered this lessons and still they are being remembered for their individual contribution in the evident pages of history,may it be the lord Krishna,bhisma, arjuna or duryodhana.
So now it is our time to wake up and we should vow to have balanced and equilibrium life of discipline,commitment and should seek in the pleasure of having attained permanent state of happiness ,well not trying to be chasing after hollow state of happiness which lasts for a few seconds of time.
But, often we see our mothers dreaming high about us at home, and adversely we work outside to impress our girlfriends or boyfriends.Or it so happens that if someone is in a love relationship. we try to shift our goals compromised and set up new goal that's Love marriage.That's all we do being selfish due to our own aggravated wired sex drives that which we create for ourselves,to attract our opposite sex and to extract the happiness from that relationship ,that happiness which doesn't even lasts for a day,because next day you want it more.
This is not the true and permanent happiness,the true happiness will get you achieve your dreams,achieve your goals and helps you deliver.Just imagine that one small moment of your life where you had scored highest marks,or where you achieved trophy in your liked sport,Imagine that moment of your life where your parents have had to get happy tears in their tired of eyes.
Imagine that respect which you get when your are successful in every stage of life wether it be a love,marital,familial or professional.
This is the real happiness that which you give to others and not the one which you take it extract from others out of your own pursuit of selfish interested desires and hidden secrets.
Once A.p.j Abdul kalam was asked why didn't he got married?He said he was so much busy in his work that he forgot.
Thus,so how you as a students and youths have to work,and not neglecting the blackboard of your class but worshipping each and every word that is being written on and over that blackboard.
Think well,what do you really want in your life some temporary things or the fixed one,even if you get attracted towards something which you don't feel easy about,then question yourself ‘ Do I really want my life to be that way?Support your conscience and not the defaulted dirty feeling that are present in us.
You will get your path….
You will definitely reach to that destination ..
You will really achieve the goal of your life .
And happiness will be permanently settled over there.
[ PLEASE SPREAD THIS MESSAGE AS IT IS FOR AWAKENING OF OUR YOUTH ]
WROTE
BY ABHIJIT PATIL
Author/content writer.

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